How to Communicate with Teenagers

Written by Bruce Hughes on . Posted in Family

If you are having troubles with your teenage children, you have come to the right place. We have some great ideas on how to communicate with teenagers better. Teenagers can be really difficult to deal with, but try to understand them because even though you may not believe it, it is as difficult for them as it is for you. You were once a teenager yourself, so perhaps you should think about that the next time you are about to engage in a conversation with your teenage child.

The secret to get your children’s attention is by paying attention to them and trying to understand them, even though you may not like the situation or if you do not agree with them, or even if you do not understand what they are talking to you about. Remember, you have different points of view, and what may be important and threatening to their future, for them it may seem unimportant at that moment, and on the contrary, something that may seem totally unimportant to you, could affect them greatly. Also, keep in mind that at this age, their hormones are just really unstable and they can easily get offended and angry. Moreover, you live in two different worlds, even if you are not aware of it and even if it is not true in fact, you actually are living in two different worlds and between these worlds there is a gap even bigger than Marianas Trench.

So, the best advice on how to communicate with teenagers would be to try to put yourself, your younger self in their place and just offer them all the support they need, even though you think they are not at all entitled to have it. Getting your children’s trust is the best thing you can do for your relationship with them. If you want them to change something, you need to put yourself into their shoes, before offering them any advice, or mainly giving them an order. Let us recognize it – we are actually trying to give them orders, without even explaining why it is wrong to act that way or to do that thing.

Finally, it is difficult to know how to communicate with teenagers, but remember to stay calm and to not get angry too fast or preferably at all, if you can. Maintaining calm is an essential aspect when dealing with your teenager. Therefore, your job is to help lead them towards making better choice, so in the future, they will be able to make good choices without your help. In achieving this, you may at some point have to let them decide and even though it will not be the right choice, you need to let them do it and assume its responsibility and learn the consequences of their actions on their own.

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